Saturday, November 18, 2017

Present Tense #Preppers

Increasingly, we are confronted by people who utterly lack coping skills of any kind.

They were sheltered from the natural consequences of their actions as children.

Therefore, they never had to develop resiliency and grit.

Because they lack coping skills, they have a deep, systemic, and perpetual worry about what may happen in the future.

In turn, it makes their present tense because they refuse to work through the tension.

Because they feel tension and have no way to process it, they gravitate toward feeling overwhelmed, panic, and sometimes terror.

Many reach a point where they cease to function.

Preppers claim to be different, but many are trapped in the fear and tension of what might be.

In a literal sense, the future never comes.

What we face is the here and now.

Because some preppers have a habit of worrying about the future, they waste the present worrying and miss the moment.

When we give in to habitual worrying about the future,
we waste that moment where we could go down a better path also on worrying.

That is not to say that we should not prepare. Of course, we should!

But worrying because we can, is simply making ourselves busy with absolutely nothing we can control.

Preparing has nothing to do with worrying. In fact, it should be the antidote.

Why do we wallow in inundation?

The answer is simple.

It’s actually easier to play the victim than to step up and learn how to cope.

The ability to cope is not the ability to solve every situation every time.

You may fail.

But because so many people have been raised with the idiocy that “no one fails when he does his best”, when people fail—not only do they feel shame for that failure—that shame is compounded by a sense that “I didn’t do my best otherwise I wouldn’t have failed.”

Knowing that, it is easier for a lot of people to choose to fail up front and to play the victim after the fact.

Scary, but true.

Learning to bring situations into focus reduces mental tension because clarity is therefore possible.

Learning that a person can make a plan and, accepting that the plan may or may not solve the issue, reduces mental tension.

When we are tense, we can solve for nothing.

Confront your tension head on and work through it.

To do so is to be a survivor.

To do so is to be mentally healthy.

Prepare well, my friends.